The focus of a person who is under the influence of EGO is always set on others. He always thinks about others. He always wants others to care about him and respect him. Even if others care about him and respect him they never satisfy his EGO. Because Ego can never be satisfied.
A person with self-respect always focus on his actions and behavior. He always set high standards for himself. He always do such things and practice such behavior which keeps his inner at peace, always.