My name is Mohit, and I've spent 41 years learning lessons, making mistakes, and celebrating small victories. On this blog, I share a wide range of topics on personal development. Join me as I share my honest, unfiltered views to inspire your own thinking and help you navigate the challenges of life with a fresh perspective. I will also share the insights from my own fitness journey.
Monday, 18 March 2019
सोशल मीडिया के ड्रामा क्वीन और किंग्स
Saturday, 23 February 2019
Things We Learn Too Late In Life
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Sunday, 6 January 2019
How to get closer to your Goals
Tips For Getting Closer To Your Goals And Achieve Them Too!
A goal is a cup of caffeine that we wish to taste every morning; if this is not so then your goal is not a GOAL. Goal setting is a powerful exercise, because the moment we do it, by its sheer power it forces us to reduce our randomness, narrow down our priorities and streamline the daily routine. There is a gut feeling, an intuition that pushes us to expand our boundary to achieve the target that we have set in our life. It’s a commitment for a period that will be taxing and frustrating which in disguises teaches the important lessons of life and makes us stronger and more committed to continue our journey. Let’s explore some of the many possible ways that can help to run a marathon that is needed before we touch the finishing line.
*Old Habits Die Hard But Make Them Rest In Peace, Slowly! : We sense an emphatic command when we encounter a successful person. People adore them; think about their aura; read, rather reread about their coverage in media and elsewhere; they are hanging on our wall and emoting differently on various accessories like cup, watch, notebooks, writing stationeries etc. Though secretly being jealous- especially when we face series of losses, of their success, we always remain in their awe. But have we ever pondered over the frictions which they overcame before world started recognizing them and celebrated their hard work. They too had option of every leisure which has dominated our sphere of life. They too were not born with complete awareness of their fault; a claim that even a self realized monk can’t make! But down the line they understood that how far they can go this way- probably not much. So they introduced, change. Well said by Jack Welch, an executive of a successful firm GE(General Electric): “Change before you have to”. How true!
In “Start- up” world the phrase- “break things fast” is very popular. It simply means that fails fast, learn the lessons and move on and don’t repeat the old mistakes. In general, procrastination, forgetfulness of goal and too much of sense indulgence are the most fundamental speed breakers of our life. We read about them- you are reading it here again! only to repeat and feel bad about it. Bad habits are like extra fat loaded on your body which not only let you move slowly but also makes you look weird. So old habits die hard but make it sure they rest in peace, slowly- if your goal is to achieve your goal!
* Become The No.1 Priority:
It sounds too selfish, isn’t it,Wrong! Yes being good and having an altruistic outlook is nice but how does it feel-one need not to tell, when it comes at the cost of your goal. Imagine going on bed every day with guilt that helping others took away the best of your time slot which was supposed to be invested in yourself. I know it is difficult. Truth be told, infrequently it can be so difficult to say a no that you wind up giving in and prefer to say “Yes Boss!. It's human instinct - we need to be pleasant, we need to be enjoyed, and we need to be thoughtful. In our society it is being taught not to cross our elders and always be helpful however painful may be the situation. We get used to it but in the end it harms our own agenda. And remember, these same people will question you when you will fall short of achieving your aim. So a polite “no” with a smile is not a bad gesture while asking them to be patient with your work after which you may be their genie-“kya huqm hai mere aaka”- what’s your wish my master?
*Change The Vibration Of Your Being:
We have heard many a time that we become what we think and visualize yet we fall back in the repeated pattern of thought process and views of our life. The mind is a bunch of sounds. And what does it mean by the statement that your mind is a bunch of sounds? Your mind is made up of language. Ninety percent of your mind is language. If you pull out language from the mind, the mind would not exist. Then, what is language? Language is sound-sound and meaning put together. Now, what is sound? Sound is just a bunch of vowels and consonants. If you understand vowels and consonants, you have understood most of your mind. So, if you want to change your mind, change the sounds in your consciousness. Your mind has a sound pattern. Your unconscious has a sound pattern. Change these patterns and you will find yourself manifesting the life of your dreams. By using positive affirmation, visualizing you can change your life by changing the sounds of your consciousness. Positive affirmations, combined with intention, attention and manifestation will create miracles in your life. Always remember, again and again you will fall in trap of your mind that will seduce you to fall for the older thought pattern but you have to use your intellect and protect yourself.
Easier said than done; how to make this a habit? Tie a black string in your hand, for example and whenever a negative thought enters just pull it! Secondly, you can introduce meditation in your daily routine as it helps you to observe your thought and separate yourself from it. Thought itself is neutral; its positive or negative nature makes or breaks our life. Surround yourself with lots of positives- books, people, affirmations, meditation, and sacred mantras if you wish and practice this for 90 days at least. Let it become part of your blood and bone, period.
*Choose Inspiration Over Motivation:
What’s the difference; they are synonym, don’t they? In a sense yes, but in a broader aspect, can differ. While what motivates you is like ice cream- an ephemeral emotion, it melts quickly; inspiration is like buying a pair of Bata shoes- it lasts long! Many a time you might have experienced some feel good factor after watching a motivational video, reading a book or listening to a speaker in a motivational speaker. The euphoria when you are in a crowd overpowers you and everything looks green and beautiful; but the moment the crowd disperses and you are walking on that lonely street, sitting silently staring the roof of your confinement, the pessimist ghost starts hovering. You continue living the routine you had previous day or the day before yesterday. You give up, literally.
On the other hand if you have a clear vision, a purpose, a sense of achievement that will not only impact you but millions of people; you strive for it even if it hurts. This purpose is so grand that to discipline your body mind becomes your priority without any motivational videos or provoking from some life coach. So, inspiration is that state of mind that propels you to continue your effort even if you feel demotivated; even if you have a bad day; and odds of life have upper hand. Sardar Patel had a vision of a unified India. It looked difficult to pull together various states that spoke different dialects, practiced varied ideologies and were adamant to remain standalone entity. But the iron man had a purpose; an idea that was difficult to conceive forget about materializing it but we know what his “will force” did. He was inspired for a greater purpose, come what may.
Nelson Mandela’s indomitable spirit to provide equal rights for the natives of South Africa and to end apartheid inspired him to fight for 28 years. There was no YouTube at that time I guess for motivational videos! To inspire you all, here is a contemporary example.
Shaumya Sharma, a 23 year old law graduate of National Law University, New Delhi is now an IAS officer.She started preparing in Feb-2017, but the road to success introduced many hurdles that demanded a very strong will to pass them; and Shaumya displayed a fighting spirit. It all went well till PT but in Mains viral fever gripped her and she was in constant pain that affected her neck area and it extended till the wrist. She couldn’t pick up the pen. Physiotherapy, Electric shock and painkillers, such dreaded options were suggested for relief but nothing worked.
Somehow she would drag herself to the examination hall to write her papers. With the passage of time she endured the worse. While writing her Mains, during lunch she was supported on saline drip in her van and body temperature won’t fall below 102-03 degree. She lost her hearing ability partially too during childhood. Despite early setbacks and the horror she faced during exams she excelled wonderfully and defeated the negatives. How? She explained that idea of serving people and proving my naysayers wrong inspired her to persist without complain. Shaumya had a purpose, a higher calling. What’s yours?
*Develop Daily Discipline:
It turns out to be progressively harder to be trained in a general public that prizes moment satisfaction. We are more worried about feeling great constantly, so we look for prompt joys, regardless of whether it's another auto, an extraordinary outing or another accomplice. Our long haul objectives are not all that essential any longer. We get settled and sit tight for a unique occasion to give our lives significance, bliss and achievement. But if your goal demands long term play you can’t refrain from the idea of building a daily discipline. Discipline is the distinction between being responsible for your future and giving your condition a chance to direct your fate. Make a standard that turns out to be second nature, programmed, typical. Competitors in various athletics, for instance, realize what hours they should prepare, when to break for noon and dinnertime, and when to rest. By following a similar schedule they prepare themselves to win. Arranging your own schedule and sticking to it will help you for daily progress as well.
* Sense The “Flow” And Exploit It To The Maximum:
Before telling about the “flow” formally let me ask you something. Did you find that soda in your hand getting back to the room temperature while watching your favorite movie or a sitcom? How often it has happened that coiled up in a single posture you finished a novel that you find difficult to put off? Or even before realizing the first thing in the morning you did was get up and start revising your notes not pout of pressure but you thought that’s what you need to do. In the above mentioned scenario the subject is in the “flow” state of mind.
Known to the Indian sages and monks in ancient time and popularized by the modern psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi- can you pronounce this name, I can’t!, “flow” is the mental state where a person is completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing a musical instrument. Your whole being is involved, and you are using your skills to the utmost. How to develop this state of mind? Over learning a skill or concept can help people experience flow. Another critical concept is the idea of slightly extending oneself beyond one’s current ability level. This slight stretching of one’s current skills can help individual experience flow. Meditation attunes you to the “Flow” state naturally.
* Take Only A Slice Of Your BIG Goal:
While it's extraordinary to have a goal-oriented objective to go for, on the off chance that you invest excessively energy mulling over the immense separation between where you stand now and where you need to get to, there's a truly decent hazard that you'll never begin on it. In all actuality, aspiring objectives can be as scary and debilitating as they can be moving and persuading. The key to influencing them to wake up is to separate your huge objective into bunches of littler advances that will bit by bit get you to where you need to be – and spotlight on them. This is called 'lumping' or breaking your goals into smaller piece. Each time you recognize a littler objective, check whether that can be separated into smaller than expected goals. By consistently working over from all that you have to influence your objective to happen, you can create tasks and a time frame.
* Find your clock:
There comes a point when however hard you try, by looking at other’s success and euphoria generated around it will force you to question why you couldn’t make it. Probably their strategies were better or luck smiled. This shouldn’t frustrate you. We all are in different time zone so far as meeting success is concerned. The world is full of examples where we see a genius at the age of 10 while many struggle till half of their making a decent bend in their life; only to surprise naysayers in their latter year. Some succeeds early, some latter but you get closer to your set goals if you are honestly pursuing it. Whatever may be the end results of your effort remember: If you win, celebrate; If you couldn’t hit the bull’s-eye you know you have trained so hard that you can be a guru to others. Either way you win.
Sunday, 25 November 2018
Give and Take
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There is a quote by Maya Angelou, which says-
"I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver".
How it is possible. While most of the times after giving we feel anxious, when we don't get the acknowledgement or anything in return for what we give. We keep thinking that, what I get after all that giving. This defeats the whole purpose of giving.
So, what should be the approach about giving and how can we feel better after giving or how can we liberate our soul.
We the answer lies in the very old indian say.. "नेकी कर, कुयें में डाल।" Which means "Do good and forget".
Let me explain in detail that what does it mean. It means, that when we give or part with anything, we should not expect anything in return. Don't keep any attachment to that. Then only you get liberation from giving. Do you remember the feeling you get after feeding some stray animal(s). That makes you happy because you don't expect any kind of favour or anything in return.
But, when we do anything to someone we know, we keep some hidden desire that he recognise that or some time he also give something in return of that favour you do to him or her. And this is the foundation of your disappointment.
Expectations and attachments are the main cause of disappointment or any kind of misery in life. And when your giving is not free from these two things, that giving can not liberate you or give you peace in your heart.
So, before giving prepare your heart and conscience, make them free from attachment and expectations and enjoy the pleasure of giving.
Without this, giving is just another pain.
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Saturday, 15 September 2018
Do it, because you should.
We all work in some place and we all have deadlines to meet. Some of us meet our deadlines and some of even beat them. But few failed and become centerof attraction but in a negative way.
So let us discuss that what happens when we don't meet our deadlines.
Firstly, we feel bad for ourselves that we could not finish something on time. We question ourselves that are we not efficient enough to do the job.
Second, In the eyes of management somewhere be create a negative image and if we repeat this behaviour we solidify this notion about ourselves.
Third, our colleagues may try to put you down and may fuel the situation against you. There are few who will give you a helping hand but most of the people try to move ahead by letting you fall and even accelerating the process.
So, what should be do?
The answer is quite simple and the only solution to the problem. That is that we should try to make an strategy and stick to that till the desired goal is achieved. It requires inspiration.
So the point is that, what inspires us. The desire to respond to the negative behaviour of colleagues or the negative workplace politics. Or our desire to work efficiently and within the scheduled timeframe. That will be your contribution in creating a happy workplace environment.
The first is reaction. We should avoid that. Because, negativity attracts negativity. That may give you desired result and give you upper hand but there will always be something which keep your workplace in silent chaos.
On the other hand if we are inspired by the thought that I will be organised and will stick to my strategy and time frame because I should be, then it will be a better option. Because positive attitude always keeps our core calm. And if our core is calm no one can affect our peace and we will automatically become a performer. We should not work to seek anybody's approval or to show off that we are better than anyone.
So, friends I would like to say good bye for now. See you later. Thanks for coming here. Please share and support my blog. Thanks a lot.
Good night, good life. Keep coming.
Monday, 20 August 2018
One simple rule for happy Relationship or friendship
What we need to have a perfect life?
If one has to answer without thinking then he or she might say that a good spacious home, a comfortable car and lots of investments. But, after pondering for some time we will realize that everything else is of no use if don't have good relationship with the people surrounding us or with the family. Because we humans are social creature.
This is not a new thing to tell you. We all know that and we all have family and friends. But, several times we find ourselves alone even if we have everyone around us. We find out that nothing is working now while everything was working perfectly earlier.
Why so? Let's find out the reason and the solution.
I will recite and old story which most of us have heard. You only need to relate it with what I am going say next. You can also skip reading story.
(Story)
So, end of story, now get back to our life. Same thing we do with our relationship. Our relationship are like hen. It gives us several happy moments everyday, which we can use to counter our daily stress and when there is no stress we can lead a very great life which no money can buy.
But, then enters greed. Instead of enjoying those sever happy moments we start exploiting our relationship. We start expecting that our relationship should make us happy all the time. If it doesn't happen then we start blaming each other and finally ruin our relationship.
So, what can we do?
Just don't be greedy. Because, when we become greedy we lose our reason, and started to exploit our relationship. We need to understand that no relationship can exist if you try to control it. It is like holding water in your hand. It will stay as long as you give it the freedom to stay on your palm. It will live, as long as you don't put any kind of pressure of your expectations. It will give you several moment to cherish to celebrate. But, the only limitation is, that you can not force those moments to happen.
So just savour your relationship or your friendship. Let it lay the golden egg on its own. Before expecting anything feed it, take good care of it. This is the only rule you need to follow to make your relationship work.
Another important thing is that one can not change in a blink of an eye. Just after reading this blog or listening any podcast or watching any video, things will not change. For change we need to put constant efforts. So start practicing in this direction and thing will change for good for sure, if not already good.
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Tuesday, 3 July 2018
Exceptions should be the rule!!!
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Their are three kind of people in this world. Those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who wonder what happened. Its a very famous quote.
So, my question is about the third kind of people. Who either wonders or deny outrightly that it is not possible and will level that result of hard work of some one as fake.
They will also blame to other people, and conditions for their failures or miserable life.
When you will say that look at that man he conquered all the adversities of life and succeeded , they will promptly say, "EXCEPTIONS ARE NOT RULES."
Well this is another quote, probably made by another third kind of man for the other third kind of man, so that he never fall short of good friends.
Because this unproven rule gives you chance to relax by beleiving that those who have done exceptional in their life are someone who are very dear to God, so he gave them some exceptional powers.
They beleive this without doing even a single thing like the so called exceptions, and gradually they will get old and will die wasting whole life complaing about the world.
When they become old they will make their age another excuse. They will say that "Now I am old. What can I do now." For those people there is a very beautiful quote.
"You don't get old by numbers, You get old by not doing activities."
Yes someone said very rightly, that inactivity make us old, otherwise there are several examples, in the world, of old people where they are doing great things and defying their age. For you that may be miracle or some thing very extraordinary, but for them that is natural. Because they have been doing those exceptional things for their whole life.
Well I too should stop complaining.. Now the question is that how can be become exception rather than wondering that how someone is so great.
The answer is quite simple. We need to make an strategy and work on that un till we reach our goal.
So, the first step is to introspect. Find out that what did not workout for us. Stop doing that or do that differently.
Second, whoever you say is an exception, find out about his/her lifestyle. See what they do and how do they do. Learn those things and inculcate those habits in your life. If now exactly the same than with some modifications.
Third, consistency is the key. Without consistency and dedication everything else is of no use.
Fourth, Faith.. If you are doing thing correctly and in a proper manner then things should worked out for you. Your efforts will give you result for sure. So, sometimes, even if you don't get the desired result, you need to keep going. There is a say..
"WHEN GOING GETS TOUGH, THE TOUGH GETS GOING."
Still, if you don't get the desired outcome, you need to look again. Checkout if there is some change or modifications are required. Improvise your strategy and take some rest for a while and again get back to work.
Fifth and last, Stop complaining.
I think these five things are the key points to change life or anything. Have Faith in yourself. You are the creator of your own feature. Because.. Even God helps those who helps themselves.
Now. I would say Namaste. Best wishes for everyone who have reached this far. Please like share and subscribe. Thanks a lot.
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