INDEPENDENCE: The First Step To Freedom

Weird title it may look, as both the words mentioned possess the same meaning. However close it may look but indeed an ability to lead an independent life is total freedom. But with freedom comes responsibility and it is not free; the life’s ultimate goal comes disguised in the form of hard work and discipline ability to question our beliefs.

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To protect itself the early humans would form a group, eventually this group became tribe and believe it or not we- the most sophisticated and civilized, still believe in the idea of tribe. A tribe comes with certain attributes that’s tailor made and we hang around in the tribe that suits us. But in order to become independent and strong minded we must rely on ourselves to question a given belief, however puritarian or egalitarian it looks. It’s easy to get carried away and fall in the sphere of influence of other smarty. When this happens remind yourself that everyone grows at their own pace.  Nobody can compose your story you are the sole maker of your life.

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Remember your first cry! That would be a tough memory test, but you have heard it , right. The umbilical cord the baby is attached to is the source of its life; when it’s cut it sends jitter, that cry is the expression of the jitter as the baby can’t utter a word but slowly it forgets its first home- the mother’s womb, and starts getting adapted to the new environment i.e. the surrounding. Time passes by; we adapt to the new environment. Some 19-20 years of conditioning- the conditioning of getting things at one command and it becomes difficult to think of breaking away from the umbilical cord 2.0.
The idea of independence or taking responsibilities has a cultural and social influence too. There are some countries where this attribution happens as early as 15-16; while in many it may go up to 25-26 years or age. In the extreme end you can put whatever number you wish before the word age. Let’s focus on the pointer that would in general help us to achieve a quintessential of a fulfilled and satisfactory life. The idea of an independent life should get seeded in a person’s mind as soon as possible. We can start with little independence and gradually proceed towards the advance and more mature once. The logic is: Accept The Idea That You Are A Loner Here

• The best approach to wind up autonomous and dependable in life is through a dedication with yourself consistently. For you to genuinely be free and capable, you simply need to consider yourself and begin settling on choices that matters, that moves development, that enable you to deal with yourself and feed in your condition. The main path through life is by being continually ready to take responsibility for the things you do.
• Increment your obligations. Little tasks like cleaning your room, paying your folks' bills, cleaning your vehicles done all the time will clearly cause you to understand the estimation of work and increment your obligations. It has worked for me.
With respect to autonomy, abstain from asking help from others and self-support yourself. Stay away from collective choices. Go with what your heart says. The best opportunity a man can have is opportunity of having free idea and activity.
• Look for what supports your brain, heart, and soul. Music, books, nature—as models. You will require a solid inward manual for assistance you settle on decisions.

• Pick exercises that improve you and the network here and there. You can maintain a strategic distance from or disapprove of the negative ways that would prompt hurt and damage. Think about potential outcomes— - it's extraordinary practice!

• At the point when looked with weight or scorn from friends, recognize it and go back to what sustains you.

• Keep it as straightforward as could reasonably be expected. Express yes to circumstances that may improve your life and work on disapproving of certain things. You can reconsider your choices and alter your perspective and activities as required.

• Regard your voice and your body, which will enable you to treat yourself as well as other people well.

• Whenever exercises or individuals feel awful or begin to control your life, change course and go to what sustains you.

• Expound on your musings and sentiments normally to enable you to process what's happening.

• Don't focus too much on your 'lacks' ( because that can be a downer if you're not wired to be super goal-oriented). Instead, play UP everything that you, yourself happen to be great at. Do those things that can also help others. Figure out what people need that you can provide, and get paid for it. Money is the key to independence.  From then, it's on to other topics, like responsibility and maintenance!

• Cut lethal individuals out of your life - you should make your separation from harmful individuals since they will just aggravate you feel about yourselves. You should define a few limits with them and let them realize that their conduct will never again be endured.

• Utilize your instinct every single certain individuals tune in to their guts.

• Tune in to your inward voice-it's critical to be rationally adaptable and aware of your internal voice.

• Quit depending on others-become your own indicator of you.


These are certain pointers that may help you to start practicing the idea of self independence. Remember, we cannot exist fully as independent being. As we live in society we are dependent on others for many chores. So the idea is to attain self respect with gratitude towards every single help you have and will receive in your futire.

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मन के भीतर की भीड़।

संसार में शायद कुछ ही लोग होंगे जिन्हें भीड़ से प्रेम होगा। लगभग सभी भीड़ से दूर समय व्यतीत करना चाहते हैं। चाहें कुछ पल ही क्यों न मिलें। जब कोई मानसिक रूप से थकान महसूस करता है तो डॉक्टर भी  यही सुझाव देते हैं कि कुछ दिन भीड़ भाड़ से दूर समय ब्यतीय कीजिये।

लेकिन भीड़-भाड़ से दूर जाके हर किसी को आराम नहीं मिल पाता। शांत जगह भी बैठ के मन के भीतर अशांति रहती है। क्या हम इसका कारण जानते हैं?

इसका कारण है हमारे मन के अंदर की भीड़ जो हमारा साथ नहीं छोड़ती।

लेकिन!!! मन के भीतर की भीड़❔❔❔ ये कैसी भीड़ है?

सामान्यतः बाहरी भीड़ में परिचित ब्यक्ति भी होते हैं और अपरिचित ब्यक्ति भी होते है। किंतु मन की भीड़ में वही लोग होते हैं जिनसे हम परिचित होते हैं। वो ब्यक्ति अपने बिचारों से सकारात्मक तथा नकारात्मक दोनो प्रकार से प्रभावित करते हैं। और हमारे निर्णयों तथा हमारी सोच को प्रभावित करते हैं। हम कई बार खुद को स्वतंत्र करना चाहते हैं किंतु अपने व्यक्तित्व की दुर्बलता के कारण खुद को उनके विचारों से, और इस सोंच से की हमारे कुछ करने से वो क्या सोंचेंगे, से अलग नहीं कर पाते। हम लोग उनके अच्छे या बुरे बिचारों को खुद से चिपका लेते हैं और फिर एकांत जगह मन की शांति की तलाश करते रहते है ठीक वैसे ही जैसे कि कस्तूरी मृग अपने उदर में कस्तूरी लिए कस्तूरी की तलाश में भटकता रहता है। और वो उसे कभी नहीं मिलती।

तो प्रश्न ये उठता है कि समाधान क्या है? कैसे मिले एकांत? कैसे करें इस भीड़ को दूर?

मन की भीड़ से दूर जाने का भी तरीका भी वही है जो बाहर की भीड़ से दूर जाने का है। साधन युक्त व्यक्ति भीड़ को दूर करने के लिए भीड़ से दूर चला जाता है। दुनिया की भीड़ को दूर करने के लिए आपके पास साधन का होना जरूरी है वरना ना चाहते हुए भी आपको रोज बस, मेट्रो में धक्के खाना पड़ता है औऱ ये चलता रहता है क्योंकि आपके पास विकल्प नहीं होता। आपको अपना जीवन चलाने के लिए कार्य करना पड़ता है। साधनवान अपनी साउंडप्रूफ महंगी कार में शीशे चढ़ाता है तथा आफिस में भी एक अकेले के केबिन में बैठता है और समय समय पर छुट्टियां मनाने जाता है। लेकिन मन की भीड़ से शायद वो भी न बच पाता हो। क्योंकि मन की दशा में ये साधन काम नही आते। 

मन में एकांत के लिए जो साधन आवश्यक है वो है एक शक्तिशाली व्यक्तित्व। शक्तिशाली व्यक्तित्व के लिए कुछ घटक है जिनके विकाश से व्यक्तित्व का निर्माण किया जा सकता है।

1. आत्मविश्वास- अपने निर्णय तथा अपनी सोंच पर विश्वास होने पर ही हमारे अंदर आत्मविश्वास का निर्माण होता है। और वो विश्वास हमे तब प्राप्त होता है जब हम ये जानते हैं की हम सही है। हमारी सोंच और हमारा निर्णय सकारत्मक है तथा किसी को नुकसान पहुचने की सोंच से प्रेरित नहीं है। ये हमारे स्वयं के उत्थान के लिए है।

2. समभाव- समभाव से तात्पर्य है कि हम सभी के प्रति समान भाव रखते है। एक ओर जहां हम अपनी स्वतंत्रता तथा अपने मौलिक अधिकारों के प्रति सजग है वही दूसरी ओर हम इस बात का ध्यान रखते हैं कि हम दूसरे प्राणियों के मौलिक अधिकारों तथा स्वन्तंत्रता में सेंध नही लगा रहे।

3. समाज के प्रति संतुलित सोंच- किसी ने सच कहा है कि यदि सभी आपसे खुश है तो आप जरूर दुखी ब्यक्ति हैं। इसलिए हमें ये ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि हम सभी को खुश नहीं रख सकते। लेकिन ये मान लेना भी गलत है कि उपरोक्त कथन का उल्टा , यानी कि सभी को दुखी करने से आप सुखी हो सकते है। समाज में आपके अधिकार भी है और दायित्व भी। इसलिए समाज के प्रति आपकी सोंच का संतुलित होना आवश्यक है। 

उपरोक्त घटकों का सही समन्यवय आपके व्यक्तित्व को शक्तिशाली बनाता है तथा आपके मन के भीतर के निरर्थक बिचारों से मुक्ति देता है। आपको ये नहीं सोचना पड़ता कि आपके संबंध में को क्या सोंच रहा है, क्योंकि आप पहले से ही सबका समन्यवय कर चुके होते है और धीरे धीरे आपका ब्यक्तित्व ही उस आधार पे निर्मित हो जाता है।

अंत तक मेरा लेख पढ़ने के लिए धन्यवाद। कृपया करके इसे अपने मित्रों के साथ शेयर करे। अपने कीमती comments भी करें। और यदि आप मेरे ब्लॉग को फॉलो करेंगे तो मुझे अति प्रसन्नता होगी। और आपतो जानते ही हैं कि प्रसन्नता बांटने से प्रसन्नता मिलती है।

नमस्कार।

Excuse the excuses.

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You can judge the character of a man/woman by his response when he/she face the failure. You can not believe a man who makes excuses for his failure or held others responsible for that. The man who takes responsibility for his actions and takes lessons from his failures is always respected.

But why people make excuses? They make excuses because of their inability to conquer the situation and inability to do necessary work before the situation arise. First, they make excuses to themselves, because they don't want to leave their comfort zone. So, those excuses keep them from going after their goal. When the damage is done they make excuses to the world.

Whatever is stopping you chasing your goals, whatever is stopping you leaving your comfort-zone is an excuse. These excuse will have serious repercussion if we don't change. So, before things go out of hands, you need to change. remember-

YOUR LIFE DOES NOT GET BETTER BY CHANCE. IT GETS BETTER BY CHANGE.                                                                                                                                           -Someone in Ted Talk

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Priority!

"Priority" a thing that is regarded as more important than others.

We all know the dictionary meaning of this word. But to stand with the successful people we are required to set our priorities very seriously. We all know and have set our priorities already. Still we don't smell the success. Why? Because we are not honest with our self and our set goals.

When we have a priority then no other thing should come in our way. We can never compromise on our priorities. We must give the required efforts in a thing or work which is more important than others, only after that we can move on other things. This must be the rule.

When we break this rule we are minimising our chances, and slowing down our speed to get what we need. When we do this more often it becomes a habit. More bad habits we develop more we prepare ourselves to get in conditions we don't want.

When we work hard on our priorities. We deserve success. When be start avoiding priorities for momentary pleasure or be lost battle against procrastination be loose that deserving title, we become needy from deserving, and when we keep repeating this we become a failure.

So, today is the day to wake up. Set your priorities and respect them, love them and be a unstoppable force.

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Escape velocity, Gravity and Motivation..

If you are working hard for your success, or to stand out of the crowd. But you are disappointed by the backchat and stupid behaviour of people around you. Then you should take your inspiration from the ROCKET. Yes the rocket. Why?

Because, to reach its destination and to stand out of other vehicle it requires escape velocity. To get that it constantly push itself up. It don't fall for the gravity. And finally it reaches its destination. Not every vehicle reaches in the space.

So, if you want to stand out, if you want to change the way people look at you. You can not fall for gravity. All these back chats, all cursing and efforts to hurt you, by the people around you, work as gravity for you. But you need to constantly push yourself up.

Sometime your own attitude works as gravity. You limit your thinking. You doubt yourself. This is because you have been listening to these people, who drag you down, for a very long period. You know somewhere in your heart that you are here to do something bigger. But you say yourself that you are not ready yet. First I will prepare myself then I will start my journey.

But believe me my friend. You will never be ready. But you are always ready to take one step further from where you are right now. And this one step every day will take you close to your destination, to your destiny.

Some wise man said that "THERE IS NEVER A WRONG TIME TO DO A RIGHT THING."

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The existence/nature is not biased.

Stop whining, complaining and staying in the comfort zone. Come out of it and start working.
Anyone can be biased against you but this nature/existence. It gives us everything. We can extract or gather what ever we need to become what we want. This nature gives us all the opportunity with the assurance that our efforts won't be lost. They will give results for sure. But if we are so habitual to live in the dark, and we won't do anything which doesn't suits us. Then we will reach nowhere.
This attitude has not done anything good till now. Neither it will be beneficial in future. If you really want some change then first thing is to avoid this habit of enjoying the rut.
Yes, If you are not doing anything to come out of your rut then somewhere you are enjoying it.
You have no right to blame anyone else but yourself. So you better come out of your comfort zone, and act.
Wish you all the best.

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Happy forever..

NEVER BE THE VICTIM OF NEGATIVITY AGAIN. Be a child.

Yes. The Line is very catchy, and it is easy and very much possible. Many people won't agree with me, many will think that I will talk about meditation technique or some will say that it is not possible.

Though I said above that it is easy and very much possible but now I will say that it is provided you practice. In the beginning, it is difficult but in few days you will be in paradise where there is nothing like boredom or purposelessness.

But how?

To achieve this I will ask you think about a small kid. Have you every seen a kid who is bored or purposeless? In a normal family where kids are given the attention which is necessary you will see a kid is always busy and never bored. So everyone would like to be like a kid that even if he/she doesn't have anything great to do he/she always fresh and does not feel bored or purposeless. So I will tell you what I observe watching is kid.

1. Kids always CURIOUS. but you will say that kids are curious because everything is new for them, how can a grown man be like this? I will say that it is the limitation of your thoughts that you can not find anything new to learn. Can you confidently say that you know everything? I think the answer is "no". So to make this-this EASY for you I will re-phrase this task.

You always have few things in your mind which you want to learn or you want to know about but you cannot work on them because of your busy life. So, whenever, by luck, you a find yourself bore or have nothing to do you can use this time to work on your these interest and you will feel that time has flown in a blink of an eye.

2. Kids keep them in a moment. This keeps them fresh. The Past or Future dwelling may be amusing but this comes with some desire to be in those moments again or if you think about future then you want to be there fast. But being in a moment does not get you in any desires.

3. Kids DON'T JUDGE PEOPLE. They know who are their family and who are strangers. But they don't judge all the time. If you smile they will smile back or If you don't give a positive look they don't give a damn to you. This third quality is to avoid the negative thoughts. If you are judging people and care about unnecessary people, they come and capture your mind when you have free time and you can not focus on above two things.  

People can give you a list but I think these are three basic and simple things which are necessary to be happy and engaged and to not feel bored.

Obviously, this requires some practice. After some time other things won't matter at all. In the beginning it difficult because mind feeds on negative thoughts. I don't know why our mind like to gather all the things which make us feel miserable. But little practice can help us a lot.

All the best. Be happy forever.

OM Namha Shivay.

Three people

There are three kinds of people.

One, who has nothing and will show off like the whole world works on their instructions. But believe me, nobody believes them. everybody know what are they. They also have the lowest self-esteem. 

Second, those who really are something and they don't mind bragging about what they have. And finally the third kind...

They will never tell anything to anybody, they will never brag about what they have and even the closest to them will never know their girth. They work silently and have no interest in people knowing what they are. I think this is the best kind. There is nothing in making unnecessary noise. 

EGO v/s SELF RESPECT

                                                

EGO

The focus of a person who is under the influence of EGO is always set on others. He always thinks about others. He always wants others to care about him and respect him. Even if others care about him and respect him they never satisfy his EGO. Because Ego can never be satisfied.

                                                     

SELF RESPECT

A person with self-respect always focus on his actions and behavior. He always set high standards for himself. He always do such things and practice such behavior which keeps his inner at peace, always.

Do your Habits complements your Goals????

What we want, is in our control. But what we will get, can not always be in our control. Why? Because most of the time we only wish to get something or to achieve something. But our actions are contrary.

There is a difference between wishing for something and wanting something. When we wish for anything there is no force in it. We just see something and start to wish to get that. But when we want then there is some force in it. We are willing to work for that and make necessary changes in our lifestyle. If you are only wishing then you can not get that. Whatever type of life we are living is depend on the type of habits or lifestyle we have developed for ourselves. To bring any kind of change in your life you have to make changes in your habits.
Thinking about changing the life without changing habits is nothing but fooling oneself. I have experienced this for all my life. Whenever I would want any thing which I did not have at that moment I had to make changes in my habits accordingly.

So, If you have plan for something big, take a look on your habits. It should be a part of your planning to achieve your goals. If your habits are not according to your goal then make provision for amending them accordingly to accelerate the process..

When we see a successful person we only see the result. We don't see that what he has done to get that success. Normal people only wish to be like him. But, those who really want to be like them they try to know their life style, habits and things which they do differently from the others.

This one quote which I heard in Ted talk is relevant here.

YOUR LIFE DOESN'T GET BETTER BY CHANCE, IT GETS BETTER BY CHANGE.

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Beware of your thoughts.

We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far. - Swami Vivekananda

I don't think that I need to say any thing more than this. If you have control on your thought you can rule the world. Because in thinking we waste lots of energy and potential. Don't waste your thought. Thought are like NUCLEAR POWER. You can use them creatively and can enlighten your world and on the other hand you can destroy yourself.
So dear friends beware of your thoughts and be watchful of your thought. I hope you like it.
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