मन के भीतर की भीड़।

संसार में शायद कुछ ही लोग होंगे जिन्हें भीड़ से प्रेम होगा। लगभग सभी भीड़ से दूर समय व्यतीत करना चाहते हैं। चाहें कुछ पल ही क्यों न मिलें। जब कोई मानसिक रूप से थकान महसूस करता है तो डॉक्टर भी  यही सुझाव देते हैं कि कुछ दिन भीड़ भाड़ से दूर समय ब्यतीय कीजिये।

लेकिन भीड़-भाड़ से दूर जाके हर किसी को आराम नहीं मिल पाता। शांत जगह भी बैठ के मन के भीतर अशांति रहती है। क्या हम इसका कारण जानते हैं?

इसका कारण है हमारे मन के अंदर की भीड़ जो हमारा साथ नहीं छोड़ती।

लेकिन!!! मन के भीतर की भीड़❔❔❔ ये कैसी भीड़ है?

सामान्यतः बाहरी भीड़ में परिचित ब्यक्ति भी होते हैं और अपरिचित ब्यक्ति भी होते है। किंतु मन की भीड़ में वही लोग होते हैं जिनसे हम परिचित होते हैं। वो ब्यक्ति अपने बिचारों से सकारात्मक तथा नकारात्मक दोनो प्रकार से प्रभावित करते हैं। और हमारे निर्णयों तथा हमारी सोच को प्रभावित करते हैं। हम कई बार खुद को स्वतंत्र करना चाहते हैं किंतु अपने व्यक्तित्व की दुर्बलता के कारण खुद को उनके विचारों से, और इस सोंच से की हमारे कुछ करने से वो क्या सोंचेंगे, से अलग नहीं कर पाते। हम लोग उनके अच्छे या बुरे बिचारों को खुद से चिपका लेते हैं और फिर एकांत जगह मन की शांति की तलाश करते रहते है ठीक वैसे ही जैसे कि कस्तूरी मृग अपने उदर में कस्तूरी लिए कस्तूरी की तलाश में भटकता रहता है। और वो उसे कभी नहीं मिलती।

तो प्रश्न ये उठता है कि समाधान क्या है? कैसे मिले एकांत? कैसे करें इस भीड़ को दूर?

मन की भीड़ से दूर जाने का भी तरीका भी वही है जो बाहर की भीड़ से दूर जाने का है। साधन युक्त व्यक्ति भीड़ को दूर करने के लिए भीड़ से दूर चला जाता है। दुनिया की भीड़ को दूर करने के लिए आपके पास साधन का होना जरूरी है वरना ना चाहते हुए भी आपको रोज बस, मेट्रो में धक्के खाना पड़ता है औऱ ये चलता रहता है क्योंकि आपके पास विकल्प नहीं होता। आपको अपना जीवन चलाने के लिए कार्य करना पड़ता है। साधनवान अपनी साउंडप्रूफ महंगी कार में शीशे चढ़ाता है तथा आफिस में भी एक अकेले के केबिन में बैठता है और समय समय पर छुट्टियां मनाने जाता है। लेकिन मन की भीड़ से शायद वो भी न बच पाता हो। क्योंकि मन की दशा में ये साधन काम नही आते। 

मन में एकांत के लिए जो साधन आवश्यक है वो है एक शक्तिशाली व्यक्तित्व। शक्तिशाली व्यक्तित्व के लिए कुछ घटक है जिनके विकाश से व्यक्तित्व का निर्माण किया जा सकता है।

1. आत्मविश्वास- अपने निर्णय तथा अपनी सोंच पर विश्वास होने पर ही हमारे अंदर आत्मविश्वास का निर्माण होता है। और वो विश्वास हमे तब प्राप्त होता है जब हम ये जानते हैं की हम सही है। हमारी सोंच और हमारा निर्णय सकारत्मक है तथा किसी को नुकसान पहुचने की सोंच से प्रेरित नहीं है। ये हमारे स्वयं के उत्थान के लिए है।

2. समभाव- समभाव से तात्पर्य है कि हम सभी के प्रति समान भाव रखते है। एक ओर जहां हम अपनी स्वतंत्रता तथा अपने मौलिक अधिकारों के प्रति सजग है वही दूसरी ओर हम इस बात का ध्यान रखते हैं कि हम दूसरे प्राणियों के मौलिक अधिकारों तथा स्वन्तंत्रता में सेंध नही लगा रहे।

3. समाज के प्रति संतुलित सोंच- किसी ने सच कहा है कि यदि सभी आपसे खुश है तो आप जरूर दुखी ब्यक्ति हैं। इसलिए हमें ये ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि हम सभी को खुश नहीं रख सकते। लेकिन ये मान लेना भी गलत है कि उपरोक्त कथन का उल्टा , यानी कि सभी को दुखी करने से आप सुखी हो सकते है। समाज में आपके अधिकार भी है और दायित्व भी। इसलिए समाज के प्रति आपकी सोंच का संतुलित होना आवश्यक है। 

उपरोक्त घटकों का सही समन्यवय आपके व्यक्तित्व को शक्तिशाली बनाता है तथा आपके मन के भीतर के निरर्थक बिचारों से मुक्ति देता है। आपको ये नहीं सोचना पड़ता कि आपके संबंध में को क्या सोंच रहा है, क्योंकि आप पहले से ही सबका समन्यवय कर चुके होते है और धीरे धीरे आपका ब्यक्तित्व ही उस आधार पे निर्मित हो जाता है।

अंत तक मेरा लेख पढ़ने के लिए धन्यवाद। कृपया करके इसे अपने मित्रों के साथ शेयर करे। अपने कीमती comments भी करें। और यदि आप मेरे ब्लॉग को फॉलो करेंगे तो मुझे अति प्रसन्नता होगी। और आपतो जानते ही हैं कि प्रसन्नता बांटने से प्रसन्नता मिलती है।

नमस्कार।

Let them play?

Any sport is for enjoyment. That should not be taken as war. Sports should be played with the spirit of game and they should be enjoyed with the same spirit.

Players are not the warriors. They are the players who are trying their best to perform and win then game for their team and the nation. When you buy ticket or watch them play on TV, it doesn't mean they are your slave or you are their master. When you throw bad remarks on them look at your self. Have you always been a winner at every aspect of your life. Have you always been honest with your family or with the society. The answers in most of the cases will be "NO".

Then why so much madness when any team could not supercede the efforts of other team.

Just asking.

Please watch game. Enjoy the performance. Don't expect players to fight war for you. They are not loosing by choice. They all give their best. Sometime efforts of one team supercede the efforts of other team and sometime superseded by others. Its just a game. Don't loose calm. Enjoy.

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Don't Downplay the Outdone!

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There are always two reactions for something greatly or amazingly done. First, we praise the doer and admire what has been achieved. This inspires us to do more and better. It also means that somewhere in our mind we are believing that it is possible for us or we can do that.

Second, we will consider that as not true, fake or some software trick. Sometimes we give credit to the luck of the doer or sometime we call it as fluke.

We need to be cautious about our second thought. Whenever we minimise and believe that something greatly done is fake or some trick, we fall for the trick of our mind. We can relax and inspire ourselves to stay in our comfort zone.
It also means that we have conceded our defeat subconsciously. We have decided in our mind that we can not do that or it is beyond our capabilities.

Therefore, abstain ourselves from thinking in negative way, unless there are most obvious reason to believe that.

Even if we believe something fake as true we would be giving our mind a challenge to do more or better. So, it is always good to be positive. We should not be economical in praising or admiring other people's achievements. After all, we all want the same for ourselves.

So, please encourage me by your comments and shares. Please spread our positivity all around. See you soon.

             Namaste.

The existence/nature is not biased.

Stop whining, complaining and staying in the comfort zone. Come out of it and start working.
Anyone can be biased against you but this nature/existence. It gives us everything. We can extract or gather what ever we need to become what we want. This nature gives us all the opportunity with the assurance that our efforts won't be lost. They will give results for sure. But if we are so habitual to live in the dark, and we won't do anything which doesn't suits us. Then we will reach nowhere.
This attitude has not done anything good till now. Neither it will be beneficial in future. If you really want some change then first thing is to avoid this habit of enjoying the rut.
Yes, If you are not doing anything to come out of your rut then somewhere you are enjoying it.
You have no right to blame anyone else but yourself. So you better come out of your comfort zone, and act.
Wish you all the best.

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Happy forever..

NEVER BE THE VICTIM OF NEGATIVITY AGAIN. Be a child.

Yes. The Line is very catchy, and it is easy and very much possible. Many people won't agree with me, many will think that I will talk about meditation technique or some will say that it is not possible.

Though I said above that it is easy and very much possible but now I will say that it is provided you practice. In the beginning, it is difficult but in few days you will be in paradise where there is nothing like boredom or purposelessness.

But how?

To achieve this I will ask you think about a small kid. Have you every seen a kid who is bored or purposeless? In a normal family where kids are given the attention which is necessary you will see a kid is always busy and never bored. So everyone would like to be like a kid that even if he/she doesn't have anything great to do he/she always fresh and does not feel bored or purposeless. So I will tell you what I observe watching is kid.

1. Kids always CURIOUS. but you will say that kids are curious because everything is new for them, how can a grown man be like this? I will say that it is the limitation of your thoughts that you can not find anything new to learn. Can you confidently say that you know everything? I think the answer is "no". So to make this-this EASY for you I will re-phrase this task.

You always have few things in your mind which you want to learn or you want to know about but you cannot work on them because of your busy life. So, whenever, by luck, you a find yourself bore or have nothing to do you can use this time to work on your these interest and you will feel that time has flown in a blink of an eye.

2. Kids keep them in a moment. This keeps them fresh. The Past or Future dwelling may be amusing but this comes with some desire to be in those moments again or if you think about future then you want to be there fast. But being in a moment does not get you in any desires.

3. Kids DON'T JUDGE PEOPLE. They know who are their family and who are strangers. But they don't judge all the time. If you smile they will smile back or If you don't give a positive look they don't give a damn to you. This third quality is to avoid the negative thoughts. If you are judging people and care about unnecessary people, they come and capture your mind when you have free time and you can not focus on above two things.  

People can give you a list but I think these are three basic and simple things which are necessary to be happy and engaged and to not feel bored.

Obviously, this requires some practice. After some time other things won't matter at all. In the beginning it difficult because mind feeds on negative thoughts. I don't know why our mind like to gather all the things which make us feel miserable. But little practice can help us a lot.

All the best. Be happy forever.

OM Namha Shivay.

Three people

There are three kinds of people.

One, who has nothing and will show off like the whole world works on their instructions. But believe me, nobody believes them. everybody know what are they. They also have the lowest self-esteem. 

Second, those who really are something and they don't mind bragging about what they have. And finally the third kind...

They will never tell anything to anybody, they will never brag about what they have and even the closest to them will never know their girth. They work silently and have no interest in people knowing what they are. I think this is the best kind. There is nothing in making unnecessary noise. 

Do your Habits complements your Goals????

What we want, is in our control. But what we will get, can not always be in our control. Why? Because most of the time we only wish to get something or to achieve something. But our actions are contrary.

There is a difference between wishing for something and wanting something. When we wish for anything there is no force in it. We just see something and start to wish to get that. But when we want then there is some force in it. We are willing to work for that and make necessary changes in our lifestyle. If you are only wishing then you can not get that. Whatever type of life we are living is depend on the type of habits or lifestyle we have developed for ourselves. To bring any kind of change in your life you have to make changes in your habits.
Thinking about changing the life without changing habits is nothing but fooling oneself. I have experienced this for all my life. Whenever I would want any thing which I did not have at that moment I had to make changes in my habits accordingly.

So, If you have plan for something big, take a look on your habits. It should be a part of your planning to achieve your goals. If your habits are not according to your goal then make provision for amending them accordingly to accelerate the process..

When we see a successful person we only see the result. We don't see that what he has done to get that success. Normal people only wish to be like him. But, those who really want to be like them they try to know their life style, habits and things which they do differently from the others.

This one quote which I heard in Ted talk is relevant here.

YOUR LIFE DOESN'T GET BETTER BY CHANCE, IT GETS BETTER BY CHANGE.

SO, I wish you all the best. Good luck.. And please share with your friends, comment and follow my blog.
Thanks a lot....

Beware of your thoughts.

We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far. - Swami Vivekananda

I don't think that I need to say any thing more than this. If you have control on your thought you can rule the world. Because in thinking we waste lots of energy and potential. Don't waste your thought. Thought are like NUCLEAR POWER. You can use them creatively and can enlighten your world and on the other hand you can destroy yourself.
So dear friends beware of your thoughts and be watchful of your thought. I hope you like it.
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