The Double-Edged Sword of Youth Radicalization

Recently, we saw the Gen-Z protests unfold in Nepal. Unsurprisingly, certain opposition figures in India and neighboring anti-India elements felt happy seeing this. Why? Because to them, this was the third successful execution of a formula—first in Sri Lanka, second in Bangladesh, and third in Nepal. Now, they believe they can replicate this exact same regime-change tactic a fourth time in India.

To achieve this, these elements are constantly trying to excite and incite Indian youth. But when everyday, sensible youth didn't show up on the streets, these conspirators created fake crowds. They brought in people who looked like the youth to project an image that Indian Gen-Z is furious, abusing authority, damaging public property, and acting against national interest.

They achieved partial success in this illusion because normal citizens and hard-working students are simply too busy earning a living and studying. They don't have time to constantly keep an eye on these "Breaking India" plots. More importantly, ordinary young people are deeply emotional. When they saw an old man fasting and remaining hungry for 20 days, their empathy took over. In that emotional moment, they couldn't see the hidden tactics of the conspirators or the fringe elements operating right alongside him. They joined the crowd out of pure compassion, unaware of how their numbers were being manipulated to signal widespread anti-national anger.

Well, this brings me to the core issue these "Breaking India" elements are failing to realize: radicalizing the youth is a double-edged sword.

Nepal is a clear example of this danger. Once people realize they can topple a government through street agitation, it becomes a habit. Whenever they dislike a decision, they immediately take to the streets and turn violent.

If these anti-national groups think they can change the regime in India using youth radicalization, they need a reality check. You must remember that eventually, you will have to face this exact same violent youth yourself. The dangerous fire you light today will ultimately burn you tomorrow.

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Introspection vs. Self-Criticism: The Mind Trick We All Fall For

It easy to confuse introspection and self-criticism. On the surface, they look like the exact same thing. We look inward, we see a flaw, and we think we are doing the hard work of self-awareness. But if you look closer, they couldn't be more different.

Here is how I see it:

Introspection is about finding the actual problem, realizing what went wrong, and then actively looking for the reason and the solution. It is functional. It looks forward.

Self-criticism, on the other hand, is a completely different beast. It’s often just an emotional reaction to doing something wrong. You acknowledge the mistake, but most of the time, you do it loudly in front of someone else. Think about it—how often do we beat ourselves up in front of a friend or a partner? Why do we do that?

We do it because that person immediately consoles us. They tell us, "No, you're fine, don't be so hard on yourself." And just like that, we feel relieved.

But notice what happens next: nothing changes.

It is just a mind trick. It’s a clever loop your brain uses to keep you exactly the same way you are, allowing your mind to relax without actually going through the uncomfortable, painful process of changing. Your uncontrolled mind is your biggest enemy.

The Bottom Line:

Introspection saves energy. It acts as a trigger that puts your brain to work, forcing it to start thinking about doing better. Self-criticism just wastes your energy. It tricks your brain into thinking, "Hey, look at how bad I feel, I must be a nice guy after all." It gives you a free pass to hit pause, telling you, "Relax for now, we will start again after some time."

Don't fall for the trick.

The Silence of care : How Withholding Advice Strengthens Bonds

Advice is the most unwanted commodity in the world, yet it is the one most freely given. Usually, we offer it because we genuinely care. Other times, let’s be honest, we do it to feel valued or to prove we know better.

But the person on the receiving end sees it through a different lens, especially if they never asked for your opinion. Even if your heart is in the right place, they often perceive your words as an attempt to establish mental supremacy. When you keep pushing, you aren't helping anymore; you are simply creating conflict.

I believe the rule should be simple: Don't advise unless asked. Of course, this is hardest with family. When you see someone you love heading in the wrong direction, you feel a duty to speak up. You feel you can’t, and shouldn’t just stand by. But there comes a moment when you have to recognize that your "words of wisdom" are being taken as personal attacks. If your care is starting to create tension and distance in the home, it is time to stop.

This "stopping" has to be genuine. It isn't just about biting your tongue while you're still screaming inside. It means reaching a state where you aren't even allowing the thought of "fixing" them to bother you anymore. You stay ready, you stay caring, and you keep your help available, but you wait for them to come to you.

Relinquishing that control is the only real way to establish peace, both within yourself and within your family.

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Spirituality: The Journey of Discovery, Not the Art of Imagination

 We are currently living in a digital age where AI-generated images and videos of the Divine are spreading across the internet like weeds in a field. With one simple command, you can create an image or a video of our deities as per our imagination, which is limited to our mental level. More than that, after doing this irresponsible thing, people believe that they are spiritual. 

But they are mistaken.

We must be honest: spirituality is not about how creatively you can imagine God. God is not a canvas for your personal fantasies or artistic impulses. God should be the singular aim of your life—a Reality that you must discover, not an object of your imagination.

The Foundation of Our Faith

A common argument from skeptics is that the idols and images we already have are also just products of imagination. This is a half-truth that ignores our history.

There is a fundamental difference between an AI prompt and an Icon:

• The Incarnations: The depictions of the Avatars are based on the precise descriptions left by our ancestors. These were people who walked with Him, who served Him, and who witnessed His form with their own eyes.

• The Rishis’ Vision: The images we have of Lord Shiva, Lord Vishnu, and Lord Brahma are not "creative art." They are the blessings of our Rishis—great seers who reached the heights of consciousness. They provided us with these forms to serve as a foundation for our faith.

The Purpose of the Image

The Rishis gave us these stories and forms because they knew our limitations. When a beginner starts their spiritual journey, an image is the "maximum" they can comprehend without the benefit of deep Sadhana (spiritual practice). These icons are meant to be a starting point—a map to guide us toward the territory.

However, the further journey demands more than just looking at a screen. It requires:

• Penance (Tapa): Burning away the ego through heat and effort.

• Discipline: Aligning your daily life with your higher purpose.

• Austerity: Simplifying your existence to focus on the Essential.

The Trap of "Cheap" Practices

Today, we see a trend toward "cheap" spirituality. People resort to these easy, digital practices because they want to feel spiritual without actually being spiritual. They want the high of a "beautiful" image without the sweat of the practice.

Instead of pleasing the Divine, this superficiality actually moves you further away from Him. You are surrounding yourself with digital noise instead of divine silence.

There is still time to correct your ways. We must stop playing with imagination and start working toward discovery. True spirituality is a hard road of discipline, but it is the only road that leads to the Truth.

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How Anger Affects Your Sanity: 3 Lessons from Sadhguru

Today, I’ll share a quick summary of what I learned while listening to Sadhguru discuss the implications of anger.

 

First, when you become angry, you cross the line from sanity into the realm of insanity. If you cross that line regularly, there may come a day when you cannot find your way back.

Second, you suffer far more than your victims do. Why put yourself through that—especially when you are the one creating the misery?

Third, when you allow external situations to dictate your actions, your body and mind become conditioned to react that way. Eventually, when a crisis hits, your mind and body may simply cease to function effectively.

These points are manageable as long as we remain sane. It is vital to stay conscious and in control so we don't create a situation where we eventually lose our minds.

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What is the key to success?

Do you want success??

It is a stupid question to ask. Who doesn't want success in life, but the meaning of of success may be different for different people. So the first question we need to ask is "What is the true meaning of Success?"

What is the true meaning of success?

For different people success has different meaning. For some lots of money is success, for some power means success and some are greedy, they may want both i.e. power and money. Still success is not limited to money and power. There are different types of success in life. A scientist sees success differently, an army personnel sees it differently. For a lover holding hand of his lover is a success and for a student scoring good in exam is an ultimate success. So, success can not be defined in a set of limited words. But the key to assure success is more or less same. And a good thing is that both a failure or a successful person knows the key, but the successful person is the one who actually have used the key to unlock the door.

What is the key to success?

Like the keys we see to open the actual lock of any door, they of success also has few levers, and to unlock the door of success you have to align all the levers of the with the lock of door to success. Those leavers can we define as Hard work, determination, consistency, focus etc. There can we few more but these are most important. Because once you get these levers aligned, the first door opens and the keys for others will be behind the first door.

But the important thing is that, you have to make the first key by your own like a locksmith. Though all the levers are important, to begin with the journey of success you need to carve them in a series. So, which is the first one to start.

Which one to start with?

We have heard success quotes that there is no shortcut to hard word, consistency is the and several others. And yes! these all are very important. But the first thing to start with is the FOCUS. Why focus is so important. I have my personal experience that whenever we try to go after success the biggest enemy we have to face is "deviation of thoughts". We are willing to do hard work, we are willing to be consistent, but our mind will drag us from our work to dwell in the past or to worry about feature and sometime to see cozy dreams of future. And this make focus the most important thing to begin with.

How to build FOCUS?

First thing you need to do is that you have to calculate, honestly, what your aim or goal requires. Then you have to calculate your ability, that where do you stand. Then, for few days (not more than 3 to 4 days) you can start with your ability. Try to push a little every day. After 3 to 4 days you have to increase your efforts upto the level required, and after 15 days you have to increase your efforts till 70% of your required time or efforts.

You will not achieve expected output or results.

Because your mind will not stay at one place. It will drag you from your work. It will give you artificial reasons to leave your work. It will remind you that one day some person told you something and that did hurt you. Sometimes it will show you beautiful dreams of future, but you have to avoid indulging in every such trap. And this falling in to the trap and untangling will take a lot of time. But you keep doing your job, you stay at your work. Spent required amount of time on your goal. Keep disregarding the lollypops given by your mind. and one day (that will be very soon if you keep doing this) you will find that you are focused at your goal. Another strange thing you will observe that you are consistently working hard on your goal. 

This wont be easy.

Definitely! this will not be an easy thing to do in the beginning. But remember, that SUCCESS always resides out of your comfort zone. You have to step out of your comfort zone. Read the quote bellow which I wrote on a writing app Your Quotes..👇 

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Present is the only truth

What has happened in past, is a dream. This will never happen again, like dreams.

Yes, similar kind of events may happen. But, that depends on you. You can avoid the repetitions by not repeating the same things if, you don't want them to happen; and you can cause the repetitions by doing similar things, if you want them to happen. Its upto you.

Same goes with the future. It is very unlikely that things happen in the way you are thinking about them to happen. Again your understanding, your actions can cause or avoid the similar kinds of events. So, future is also a dream.

When you keep dwelling in your past, or you keep yourself busy imagining your future, you PRESENT BECOMES HOLLOW. And hollow present will not fulfill your future. And in any way it will not remove anything unwanted from your past. So the best thing to do, is to not affect your present by any past event or future event. Keep it as pure as possible, without any contamination. Do neither be sad or worrisome because of past or future, nor be unnecessarily happy because something may happen in present. Both ways you are deviating from making the present best.

Remember present is the only truth and the ultimate truth, and truth should not be mixed with any thing. Then it will become a lie, and will cause same damage as a lie would cause.

I am not saying anything new. But, it is good to remember if you are causing any damage to your present right now. If, you are reading this, may be the God wants to convey the message through my blog. Listen to him.. This blog is just a medium, don't ignore these words. And, please share, may be you become the medium to pass the message to someone in need.

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Don't judge your goals, judge your efforts.

DON'T JUDGE YOUR GOALS,

JUDGE YOUR EFFORTS. -SwamiMohit

Hello Everyone

How are you? I hope and wish all of you are doing great. You all must be trying to achieve your set goals and fulfill your dreams. And today I am going to talk about our goals, our dreams only. Friends! most of the times those who work for their goals in a planned way they achieve what they want, and it's a great thing. But sometimes we fail and we become skeptical about our dreams our goals. Whether I can achieve this or not? If I set the right goal for myself, ain't it too big for me?

Believe in your goal

Let's talk about this. Dear friends, I want to say that the size of our dreams or goals doesn't matter at all. We have the ability to achieve anything or at the same time be also have the ability to lose anything, in spite of every resource we have to hit at the very aim. So, what matters is the desire to achieve our set goals, the efforts we put to fulfill our dreams. Dreams may seem big or small to others only, but to you, your dreams are only dreams, and very much achievable.

The biggest companies were set up by ordinary people. Now they seem extraordinary because what they dreamt was very big for the others. It is very much possible that those people would make fun of them and even ridiculed them. But the achievers never bothered, their dreams were only dreams. they were not big dreams or impossible dreams. But something was really big. that was their faith/belief and the efforts they put to achieve them.

Achieve your goal, achieve your dream

It is like having a field. We can grow any crop we want. China even has grown a plant on the moon, though it lived for a very short period of time. But one day it will be possible to grow plant and they will sustain on the moon. So, if you have a field you can grow any crop of your choice. You can plant a jungle on the same land and you can leave that field to go barren. It is also important just dreaming and setting goals won't help. We have to sow seeds, water them and we have to do all the required harvesting activities to get the desired crop. So, if you are willing to do all the required work, you don't need to look at the size of your dream. You will make that happen for sure. But, if you are honest then also the size of your goal or dream doesn't matter. That will not be materialized anyway.

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The Simple Cause of Depression (And How to Beat It)

 WHY DEPRESSION?

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I won't be doing a scientific analysis here, as I'm a layman. So, I will speak in a layman's language and convey my thoughts through a simple quote:

"When we do 'don'ts' and don't do 'dos,' we encounter depression." -Swami Mohit

In simple words, to live a happy life without any regrets, we must be very clear about our "dos" and "don'ts." We must also be aware of the consequences if we deviate from them. Our own irresponsible actions can land us in situations where we get stuck and see no way out. This becomes the primary reason for our frustration. When we refuse to change our behavior and expect everything else to change on its own, the situation becomes even worse. This prolonged frustration and anxiety can then become the root cause of depression.

So, if we want to avoid this deadly situation, it is of utmost importance that we do what we should, and it's even more crucial that we avoid what we shouldn't. If we do deviate, we must be mentally prepared for the consequences and accept the outcome. This is because misery doesn't appear out of nowhere; most of it is created by us.

On the other hand, we have the power to save ourselves from depression. If we find ourselves in this situation, we have all the means to overcome and beat it. But first, we must accept our situation and take responsibility for it. We must also understand that if we have created this mess, then we also have the capability to overcome this mental condition.

Life is beautiful. It should not be wasted under any circumstances. Love your life and every life around you.

Good luck and have a wonderful life.

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21 दिन का लॉक डाउन को कैसे बिताएं

भाईयो और बहनो

नमस्कार

आज हम सभी एक मुश्किल भरे दौर से गुजर रहे है। और मुश्किल का नाम है Corona Virus। 

           

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लेकिन 21 दिनो तक घर में बन्द रहना बहुत ही मुश्किल हो जाता है जब हम लोग दिन भर काम करने के आदी हो गये हैं। इसलिए मैने एक वीडियो भी बनाया है जिसमे मैने कुछ महत्वहपूर्ण बिन्दुओं पर चर्चा की है। आप लोग वीडियो को देख भी सकते हैं और यहाँ पर पढ भी सकते हैं। लेकिन आपसे निवेदन है की आप मेरे चैनल को subscribe अवश्य करें।

             

लेकिन ये 21 दिन बहुत महत्वपूर्ण हैं। हमारे प्रधानमंत्री जी ने ठीक ही कहा है की अगर इन 21 दिन हमने नियमों का पालन नहीं किया तो हम लोग 21 साल पीछे चले जायेंगे। इसलिए हम घर पर रहेंगे तो जरूर corona virus से जीतेंगे। नीचे मेरे मित्र की लिखी हुई कुछ पंक्तियाँ ठीक से बयां कर रही हैं स्थिति को। की जो रुकेगा वो ही जीतेगा।

                

अब अनिवार्य ये है 21 दिन तक हम घर पर कैसे रहें बिना परेशानी के और बिना मानसिक तनाव के। इसके लिए हमें परिस्थिती को समझना बहुत जरूरी है। हमें समझना होगा कि हमें घर में रहना और साथ रहना है। तो कुछ जरूरी विन्दुओं पर मैं प्रकाश डालना चहूँगा।

1. चूंकि हमें साथ ही रहना है इसलिए किसी प्रकार का आपसी मतभेद ना पैदा करें और एक दूसरे को सुनें और समझें। और जिन बातों पर मतभेद हो सकता है उन पर चर्चा ना करें। फिर भी अगर मतभेद की स्थिति पैदा हो जाती है तो तुरंत ये बिचार करें की ऐसे कैसे रहेंगे।

2. अच्छी रोग प्रतिरोधक क्षमता इस वायरस हो हराने के लिए बहुत ही आवश्यक है। इसके लिए प्रतिदिन सही दिनचर्या बनाएँ और उसका पालन करें। व्यायाम करें, योग करें। कपालभाति और प्राणायम बहुत महत्वपूर्ण साबित हुए हैं आपकी रोगप्रतिरोधक क्षमता बढाने में। इनका अभ्यास रोज करें।

3. मानसिक संतुलन बनाये रखने के लिये ध्यान करें। विपस्यना एक बहुत ही सरल और उपयोगी तकनीकी है। इसका अभ्यास करें।

4. इस समय अवधि को कारागार की सजा की तरह ना लें, बल्कि इस दौरान उन सब कामों को करने का प्रयास करें जो आपने समय की कमी के कारण नहीँ किये थे।

5. आप साथ साथ बैठकर, उचित दूरी बनाये रखके, सिनेमा देखें या कोई खेल खेलें।

6. अपने बच्चों के साथ समय बिताएंं और उन्हे संस्कार और अच्छी बातें सिखाएं। उन्हे कहानियाँ भी सुनाए जो आपको आपके दादी या दादा नें आपको सुनाईं लेकिन आपके बच्चों को ये सौभाग्य नहीं मिल पा रहा है।

7. कुछ पुस्तकें आपने कभी खरीदी होंगी जो आज भी आपका इन्तज़ार कर रही होंगी, ये ही समय की उनकी इस प्रतीक्षा को समाप्त करें और उन्हें पढें।

8. सबसे महत्वपूर्ण बिन्दु ये है की एक दूसरे का ख्याल रखें और एक दूसरे का हौसला बढ़ाते रहें।

इतना सब करने से एक तो हमरा समय भी ब्यतीत हो जायेगा और हम मानसिक तनाव से भी बच जायेंगे, साथ ही हमारे सम्बंध भी और मजबूत होंगे।

तो मैं आप सभी के अच्छे स्वास्थ्य की कामना करता हूँ और आशा करता हूँ की आप सभी अपना ये 21 दिनो का समय कलात्मक तरीके से ब्यतीत करेंगे।

मैं आजकल किताबें पढ रहा हूँ। अपने ब्लॉग पर आप लोगों के लिये लेख लिख रहा हू और मैं खुद को एक कमरे में  ही रखता हूँ क्योकी मुझे कुछ दिन पहले यात्रा करनी पडी थी।

आप सभी लोग मेरे इस लेख को पढिए और उपरोक्त बातों का ध्यान रखिये और स्वस्थ रहिये।

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God vs Superstitions

Hello today I want to Express my thoughts about atheists who constantly make fun of theists and or rebuke them for their belief in God. Atheist also try to show that they are intellectually superior because they are logical, they believe what is real and visible.

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One can not term worshiping God or to have faith in one as superstition. Yes, one is superstitious if he or she kills someone or cause any kind of harm to any one in the name of God. Otherwise it's totally upto the person that how does he/she sees his/her God. Generally one person become atheist, when he/she sees that the whole world is praying or worshipping God, still there is misery in the world. People are suffering and there is lots of chaos. But what if I told you that God has nothing to do with your misery. If you look at the life of Hindu God Lord Ram, he himself underwent through all the difficulties of life.

So, you are atheist because you see God as solution to the problems of the world. Actually God is neitger the solution not the problem. He is just an inspiration to live the life ethically or with grace. Yes, one can do the same without having faith in God, and I can not force you and am not forcing you to believe in God. In the same way you should not make fun or rebuke the theist. And if you are doing so then I can also say that you are a superstitious too. Because you too believe something not exist when you have no proof of his non existence. You will say, nobody sees him so what is the need to prove his existence. But many have seen him or experienced him, so you also can't be 100 percent true.

By the way, in Hinduism people ask God for material wellbeing as long as they are ignorant of the real meaning of God. Once they realize, who is God? They stop asking for material wellbeing. They only pray because they feel peace in their heart. Some even renounce the whole world. They become sadhak or sadhu. Hence, asking God for material wellbeing, or on the opposite expecting that if there is God he will put everything in its place, is superstition for sure. So, one should stop being proud of himself if he or she is an atheist. You are good for yourself and one who is praying is good for himself. Know the real purpose of praying or worshipping and then, I am sure your perception will also change. Till then take care and have fun.

PS: By the way you can't see corona virus without a proper instrument. So you can see or experience God also, provided you have proper instrument. 

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शहर का शोर

आज कल सभी को शान्ती की खोज है। प्रत्येक व्यक्ति शान्ती के लिए कहीं ना कहीं भागता ही रहता है, लेकिन मिल नहीं पाती। इसी संदर्भ में मै एक कविता कटाक्ष के रूप में प्रस्तुत कर रहा हूँ, यदि पसंद आये तो अपना स्नेह अवश्य दिखाएं।

तुम्हारे मन में चोर है,

इसलिए तुम्हारे दिमाग में शोर है।

उस चोर को छिपाने के लिए,

दूसरों मे ढूढते रहते हो कमिया।

और जब रात को नींद नहीं आती,

तो कहते हो शहर में शोर है।

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पहले रिश्तों को बेमाने किया,

जब रिस्तेदार नहीं दिखे,

तो कहा रिश्तों में खोट है।

या तो दिखानी है अपनी रहीसी,

या देखना है रहीसों को।

अब जब सख्सियत नहीं,

सब का ध्यान पैसे की ओर है।

तो कहते हो,

मतलबी लोग हैं।

और जब नींद नहीं आती,

तो कहते हो शहर में शोर है।

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ईंट और पत्थर से बनते हैं मकान,

ये सबको पता है।

और आपने भी बनाया,

ऊपर वाले की दया है।

लेकिन जब मकान को घर नहीं बना पाये,

तो इसमें किसकी खता है?

अब जब रात को नींद नहीं आती,

इन चार दीवारों में,

तो कहते हो शहर में शोर है।

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                                                         स्वामी मोहित 🙂

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क्यों मुस्कराऊँ????

क्यों मुस्कुराऊँ

अस्तित्व है अराजक

बनती है, रहती है,मिटती है

बिना भाव के।

तुम हिस्से इसके, पर खोजते हो

अपनी चाल

है तुम्हारा अहम शायद कुछ खास।

गर्दन अकड़ जाएगी,

शायद अकड़ हीं गई है!

इसलिए वक़्त की टिक-टिक कहती है:

बेपरवाह जियो और ख़ूब जियो

जिंदगी कमीनी है, 

किसी को नहीं छोड़ती।

इसलिए मुस्कुराओ

सुख की बात है झूठी, 

 है ये सुन्दर असत्य

यहां सुख किसको मिला है?

विष ज्वार में सभी जल रहे

ये विरह सबमें सधा है।

इसलिए मुस्कुराओ

प्रतिदिन कई द्वंद से जंग है

मृगतृष्णा है कि कोई संग है

जीवन कुरूक्षेत्र में रोज़ घाव मिलते हैं

एक भरा नहीं कि दूसरा मिला वहीं।

निश्चित है नतीजा

एक तरफ़ बस्ती है तो दूसरी ओर उजड़ती है।

इसलिए?? मुस्कुराओ!

बड़ा हीं अन्याय हुआ है

मेरे अंदर हीं शत्रु जगा दिया है

पर तुम मुस्कुराओ!

भीतर भी माया

बाहर भी माया

भीतर वृतियों का पसार

बाहर मायावी संसार।

मुस्कुराने की मेरे पास कोई

वजह नहीं है

पर दुःखी हो जाऊं, ये सहज भी

नहीं है।

कुछ भी नहीं है

कोशिश करो फिर भी।

मैं हूँ, बस ये काफ़ी है

इसलिए मुस्कुराऊंगा।

तुम हो, ये काफ़ी है

इसलिए मुस्कुराओ।

अपूर्व.

INDEPENDENCE: The First Step To Freedom

Weird title it may look, as both the words mentioned possess the same meaning. However close it may look but indeed an ability to lead an independent life is total freedom. But with freedom comes responsibility and it is not free; the life’s ultimate goal comes disguised in the form of hard work and discipline ability to question our beliefs.

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To protect itself the early humans would form a group, eventually this group became tribe and believe it or not we- the most sophisticated and civilized, still believe in the idea of tribe. A tribe comes with certain attributes that’s tailor made and we hang around in the tribe that suits us. But in order to become independent and strong minded we must rely on ourselves to question a given belief, however puritarian or egalitarian it looks. It’s easy to get carried away and fall in the sphere of influence of other smarty. When this happens remind yourself that everyone grows at their own pace.  Nobody can compose your story you are the sole maker of your life.

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Remember your first cry! That would be a tough memory test, but you have heard it , right. The umbilical cord the baby is attached to is the source of its life; when it’s cut it sends jitter, that cry is the expression of the jitter as the baby can’t utter a word but slowly it forgets its first home- the mother’s womb, and starts getting adapted to the new environment i.e. the surrounding. Time passes by; we adapt to the new environment. Some 19-20 years of conditioning- the conditioning of getting things at one command and it becomes difficult to think of breaking away from the umbilical cord 2.0.
The idea of independence or taking responsibilities has a cultural and social influence too. There are some countries where this attribution happens as early as 15-16; while in many it may go up to 25-26 years or age. In the extreme end you can put whatever number you wish before the word age. Let’s focus on the pointer that would in general help us to achieve a quintessential of a fulfilled and satisfactory life. The idea of an independent life should get seeded in a person’s mind as soon as possible. We can start with little independence and gradually proceed towards the advance and more mature once. The logic is: Accept The Idea That You Are A Loner Here

• The best approach to wind up autonomous and dependable in life is through a dedication with yourself consistently. For you to genuinely be free and capable, you simply need to consider yourself and begin settling on choices that matters, that moves development, that enable you to deal with yourself and feed in your condition. The main path through life is by being continually ready to take responsibility for the things you do.
• Increment your obligations. Little tasks like cleaning your room, paying your folks' bills, cleaning your vehicles done all the time will clearly cause you to understand the estimation of work and increment your obligations. It has worked for me.
With respect to autonomy, abstain from asking help from others and self-support yourself. Stay away from collective choices. Go with what your heart says. The best opportunity a man can have is opportunity of having free idea and activity.
• Look for what supports your brain, heart, and soul. Music, books, nature—as models. You will require a solid inward manual for assistance you settle on decisions.

• Pick exercises that improve you and the network here and there. You can maintain a strategic distance from or disapprove of the negative ways that would prompt hurt and damage. Think about potential outcomes— - it's extraordinary practice!

• At the point when looked with weight or scorn from friends, recognize it and go back to what sustains you.

• Keep it as straightforward as could reasonably be expected. Express yes to circumstances that may improve your life and work on disapproving of certain things. You can reconsider your choices and alter your perspective and activities as required.

• Regard your voice and your body, which will enable you to treat yourself as well as other people well.

• Whenever exercises or individuals feel awful or begin to control your life, change course and go to what sustains you.

• Expound on your musings and sentiments normally to enable you to process what's happening.

• Don't focus too much on your 'lacks' ( because that can be a downer if you're not wired to be super goal-oriented). Instead, play UP everything that you, yourself happen to be great at. Do those things that can also help others. Figure out what people need that you can provide, and get paid for it. Money is the key to independence.  From then, it's on to other topics, like responsibility and maintenance!

• Cut lethal individuals out of your life - you should make your separation from harmful individuals since they will just aggravate you feel about yourselves. You should define a few limits with them and let them realize that their conduct will never again be endured.

• Utilize your instinct every single certain individuals tune in to their guts.

• Tune in to your inward voice-it's critical to be rationally adaptable and aware of your internal voice.

• Quit depending on others-become your own indicator of you.


These are certain pointers that may help you to start practicing the idea of self independence. Remember, we cannot exist fully as independent being. As we live in society we are dependent on others for many chores. So the idea is to attain self respect with gratitude towards every single help you have and will receive in your futire.

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कभी किसी को मुकम्मल जहां नहीं मिलता••••

निदा फ़ाज़ली जी ने बहुत अच्छी पंक्तियाँ लिखीं थीं,

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     कभी किसी को मुकम्मल जहां नहीं मिलता ।
       कहीं जमीं तो कहीं आसमां नहीं मिलता ।।
और हमारे मन की सारी परेशानियों की एक ही वजह है, कि हमें सब कुछ चाहिये, पूरा पूरा। कुछ भी कम नहीं, कोई कमीं नहीं। और हम सबको पता है कि हमें क्या मिलता है। और दूसरा सोने पे सुहागा ये है कि पूरा पाने की चाहत भी होती है लेकिन उसके लिये पूरा प्रयास नहीं करना होता। दूसरे व्यक्ति से तुलना करेंगे तो ये कि उसको क्या मिला या उसके पास क्या है, लेकिन ये तुलना नहीं होती कि अन्य व्यक्ति ने पाने के लिये क्या खोया या फिर उसने कितना प्रयास किया।

किन्तु, बात प्रयास करने या ना करने की नहीं करने की नहीं है। बात है यह जानने की कि पूरा नहीं मिलेगा, पहली बात और दूसरी बात ये कि क्यों नहीं मिलेगा? इसका कारण।

कारण को आप दो प्रकार से समझ सकते हैं।

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पहला ये कि प्रकृती का सिद्धान्त है की चीजें हमेंशा संतुलन में रहेंगी ही रहेंगीं। प्रकृती आपको सबकुछ देकर कभी एक ही छोर पे कर के असन्तुलन पैदा नहीं होने दे सकती। आप को कुछ पाने के लिये एक छोर पर कुछ बजन रखना होगा तभी उसके बराबर आपको दूसरे छोर पर मिलेगा और प्रकृति का तराजू सन्तुलित रहेगा।

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दूसरा न्यूटन के तीसरे सिद्धांत के अनुसार, क्रिया के बराबर ही प्रतिक्रिया होती है। अर्थात् आप जो चाह रहे हैं, उसे पाने के लिये जरूरी परिश्रम करेंगे तो आपको वो जरूर मिलेगा। और आप झट से कह सकते हैं कि फिर तो मुकम्मल जहाँ मिल गया। ना। आपने पाने के लिये कई त्याग किये तब मिला।

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एक कहावत एक दम सटीक बैठती है कि हर चीज की एक कीमत होती है, अगर आप उसे चुका सकते हैं तो वो आपको मिलेगी। वरना चाहने की कोई अलग से कोई कीमत नहीं होती, उसकी कीमत आप व्याकुल, चिंतित और दुखी होकर चुकाते रहते हैं रोज, जब तक आप विवेकानंद जी के बचन, (ऊत्तिष्ठत, जाग्रत, प्राप्य बारान्निबोधत अर्थात उठो, जागो और ध्येय की प्राप्ति तक प्रयास करते रहो) के अनुसार चलने का संकल्प नहीं लेते।

मैं अपनी बात को यहाँ विराम देता हूँ और आप सभी पाठको का हृदय से धन्यवाद करते हुए आप सभी के लिये मंगल कामना करता हूँ। आप सभी से निवेदन हैं कृपया करके मेरे ब्लॉग को यहाँ क्लिक् करके subscribe करें। आप अपने विचार और प्रश्न कमेंट कर सकते है। और आपसे विनती है कि इसे अप्ने मित्रों के साथ साझा करें। आपकी अति कृपा होगी।
धन्यवाद।

सोशल मीडिया के ड्रामा क्वीन और किंग्स

चलिये••• आज का सम्बोधन जरा अपने माननीय प्रधान सेवक जी के तरीके से करते हैं।

                  

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भाईयों और बहनों

एक बात बताईये की अगर आप अपनी सारी कमाई गयी सम्पत्ति एक सार्वजनिक स्थान पर रख के घर जाके सो जाते हैं, तो आप क्या उम्मीद करते हैं?

क्या आपको लगता है की आपकी सम्पत्ति सुरक्षित बचेगी?

क्या कोई सज्जन रात भर जाग कर उसकी हिफाज़त करेगा और सुबह होने पर लौटा देगा। और आपको समझाएगा की इस तरह की होशियरी नहीं करनी चाहिये?

या फिर कोई भी उसको हडप लेने का प्रयास नहीं करेगा?

या फिर दुनिया के बिन मांगे ज्ञान बांटने चुप होकर कोई टिप्पडी नहिं करेंगे?

अगर ऐसा लगता है तो आप इस दुनिया या इस युग के ब्यक्ति नहिं हैं। आप जरूर महाभारत या रामायण काल से पधारें हैं। और अगर ऐसा है भी तो इस तरह की मूर्खता का फल उस समय भी आपको अवश्य ही भुगतना होता।

ठीक उसी प्रकार आज के बुद्धि जीवी जिनका जीवन "सोशल मीडिया" के बिना अधूरा है, वे हरदिन इसप्रकार के कारनामें करते दिखायी देते हैं फिर समाज को कोसते हैं।

                   

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आप जो हर समय समाज और दुनिया को सवालों के कठ्घरे में खडा कर देतें हैं आज मैं भी आपसे कुछ प्रश्न पूंछता हूँ••• कि क्या आपको ही अधिकार है की दुनिया से उल्टा चलने का?

पहले तो आप अपने विचार सार्वजनिक पटल पे रखते हैं फिर ये सोंचते हैं की समाज का हर ब्यक्ति आपके विचारों से सहमत हो जाये। और सहमत ना हो तो चुपचाप बैठ जाये।

अरे भाई ये कैसे सम्भव है। आप भी तो अपने विचार किसी ना किसी के बिपरीत जाकर प्रकट कर रहे हैं।

अगर आप चाहते हैं की कोई आपके विचारों से असहमत ना हो तो आप अपने घर में प्रयास कीजियेगा। सबसे पहला विरोध आपके पिताजी ही से मिल जायेगा।

                   

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अरे भाई लोग भारत के प्रधानमंत्री को नहीं छोड़ते तो आप किस खेत की मूली हैं।

ज्यादातर सोशल मीडिया के ड्रामेंबाज समाजिक नहीं होते। इसलिए उन्हे पता ही नहीं होता की "बात निकलेगी तो फिर दूर तलक जाएगी "। या फिर वो मोहल्ले की चाची या मौसी की तरह होते हैं जिन्हें बस एक ही काम होता है कि जो बात निकले उसे दूर तक पहुंचाना।

बर्ना आपको ये भली-भाँति ये पता होना चाहिये की जैसे you want to be break free (जैसे आप सारे बंधनों को तोड देना चाहते है) वैसे ही कई सारे आपके भाई बन्धु जंजीरो को चुनौती देते रहते हैं। जैसे आप गाना गाते रहते हैं की "कोई ज़ोर जवानी पर नहीं " वैसे ही उनकी भी जवानी किसी बन्धन को स्वीकार नहीं  करती।

तो कुल मिला कर मेरा मुद्दा ये है की आप या तो विशेषज्ञों के परामर्श अनुसार सोशल मीडिया का प्रयोग सीख लें या फिर ये जान लें की आजकल आपने जो अपने मोबाइल या संग्डक (computer) से 1GB प्रतिदिन मुफ्त के डेटा के मध्यम से इंटरनेट के अनंत ब्राह्मांड में जो भेज दिया वो दुनिया के नाना प्रकार के आपके समान बुद्धिजीविओं के अवलोकन के लिये उप्लब्ध है, आप तो क्या दुनिया की कोई ताकत उन्हे नहीं रोक सकती। और निजता (privacy) की बात तो भूल ही जाईये।

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धन्यवाद

Things We Learn Too Late In Life

What is the difference between a man and a boy. Man understands and a boy sees. Man responds and boy reacts. This happens when we understand trivial things and their impacts. Not everything worth understanding is bitter. So other than the things listed below we also need reasoning to understand that why things are this way.. Let us find out what are the things which make us man out of a boy or a woman out of a girl..

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*Life does not become easy we just get more resilient.

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*You don't have to explain yourself, just say no and keep quiet.

*Never let anyone pick your college degree for you.

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*Go do what you love the most.People will always judge you by your financial status, keep working hard.Do not compare yourself to others, do not even envy others. Your time will come.If you are a man you have to work for the life you want.

*Don't burn bridges, you never know when you might want to cross the river again.

*You don't have to participate in arguments, if you are right make your point then don't pressure it.

What people think about you is none of your business.Always do whatever you love, do what makes you happy.

*You don't need a reason to cutoff toxic people in your life.Avoid negative people or a negative mindset, it can be done stay positive.

*Go to the gym now or prepare for medical check ups later. Being fit is the key.

*Spend time with your family, call them, support them. These are the only realest people in your life.

*You just need to start with what you have. Stop waiting.Most opportunities don't just come, you have to work for them.Patience. Patience. Patience. I can't stress this enough.

*Good things will always come your way, you have to prepare yourself for them.

*Learn to stand up for yourself. Even before your parents. If you make mistakes you will learn from them.Never live by what other people think, you won't enjoy yourself.

*Learn how to depend on yourself at an early age, this will prepare your mind for the future.

*We are all going to die someday, so why not live the life you want?Karma really is a bitch, but you can make it your friend.

*Respect people and stay humble.Don't be the loudest in the room, people are more interested to hear your story when you hold it back.

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*Your ego and pride will always determine the things you'll have in life. Make sure you keep them high and know when to lower them.Its okay to be angry with God.

*Education is more important than falling in love or fantasizing about a chimera. Do not feel guilty of ruining your education because of someone(it will never let you succeed).

*Only you can save yourself from all the troubles.No one understands your pains truly and fully.

*If someone says “I am not worth you”, accept it, he/she is actually not worth you.Knowing your worth is important.

*Money is the most important thing in the world.Money and Education are the things that make a person reputable in today’s world.

*The one who says “I am happy being single” is the one who has loved someone deeply and could not convince his/her heart to accept someone else.

*Music does not always soothe your pain.Time actually heals your internal wounds.

*Parents are with you until they saw you working hard, they will start complaining the day they see you as worthless. But they complain for your welfare that too seamlessly.

*True love is difficult to find.After a certain time, you learn that friends too leaves.

*Betrayal is the biggest pain you can feel.

*Not all who talks sweetly are sweet in person.

*Dreaming about your passion saves you from Depression and hard time.

This all come with maturty, and when we understand all these things we are called a mature person.

How to get closer to your Goals

Tips For Getting Closer To Your Goals And Achieve Them Too!

A goal is a cup of caffeine that we wish to taste every morning; if this is not so then your goal is not a GOAL. Goal setting is a powerful exercise, because the moment we do it, by its sheer power it forces us to reduce our randomness, narrow down our priorities and streamline the daily routine. There is a gut feeling, an intuition that pushes us to expand our boundary to achieve the target that we have set in our life. It’s a commitment for a period that will be taxing and frustrating which in disguises teaches the important lessons of life and makes us stronger and more committed to continue our journey. Let’s explore some of the many possible ways that can help to run a marathon that is needed before we touch the finishing line.

*Old Habits Die Hard But Make Them Rest In Peace, Slowly! : We sense an emphatic command when we encounter a successful person. People adore them; think about their aura; read, rather reread about their coverage in media and elsewhere; they are hanging on our wall and emoting differently on various accessories like cup, watch, notebooks, writing stationeries etc. Though secretly being jealous- especially when we face series of losses, of their success, we always remain in their awe. But have we ever pondered over the frictions which they overcame before world started recognizing them and celebrated their hard work. They too had option of every leisure which has dominated our sphere of life. They too were not born with complete awareness of their fault; a claim that even a self realized monk can’t make! But down the line they understood that how far they can go this way- probably not much. So they introduced, change. Well said by Jack Welch, an executive of a successful firm GE(General Electric): “Change before you have to”. How true!

In “Start- up” world the phrase- “break things fast” is very popular. It simply means that fails fast, learn the lessons and move on and don’t repeat the old mistakes. In general, procrastination, forgetfulness of goal and too much of sense indulgence are the most fundamental speed breakers of our life. We read about them- you are reading it here again! only to repeat and feel bad about it. Bad habits are like extra fat loaded on your body which not only let you move slowly but also makes you look weird. So old habits die hard but make it sure they rest in peace, slowly- if your goal is to achieve your goal!   








* Become The No.1 Priority:

It sounds too selfish, isn’t it,Wrong! Yes being good and having an altruistic outlook is nice but how does it feel-one need not to tell, when it comes at the cost of your goal. Imagine going on bed every day with guilt that helping others took away the best of your time slot which was supposed to be invested in yourself. I know it is difficult. Truth be told, infrequently it can be so difficult to say a no that you wind up giving in and prefer to say “Yes Boss!. It's human instinct - we need to be pleasant, we need to be enjoyed, and we need to be thoughtful. In our society it is being taught not to cross our elders and always be helpful however painful may be the situation. We get used to it but in the end it harms our own agenda. And remember, these same people will question you when you will fall short of achieving your aim. So a polite “no” with a smile is not a bad gesture while asking them to be patient with your work after which you may be their genie-“kya huqm hai mere aaka”- what’s your wish my master?

*Change The Vibration Of Your Being:

We have heard many a time that we become what we think and visualize yet we fall back in the repeated pattern of thought process and views of our life. The mind is a bunch of sounds. And what does it mean by the statement that your mind is a bunch of sounds? Your mind is made up of language. Ninety percent of your mind is language. If you pull out language from the mind, the mind would not exist. Then, what is language? Language is sound-sound and meaning put together. Now, what is sound? Sound is just a bunch of vowels and consonants. If you understand vowels and consonants, you have understood most of your mind. So, if you want to change your mind, change the sounds in your consciousness. Your mind has a sound pattern. Your unconscious has a sound pattern. Change these patterns and you will find yourself manifesting the life of your dreams. By using positive affirmation, visualizing you can change your life by changing the sounds of your consciousness. Positive affirmations, combined with intention, attention and manifestation will create miracles in your life. Always remember, again and again you will fall in trap of your mind that will seduce you to fall for the older thought pattern but you have to use your intellect and protect yourself.
Easier said than done; how to make this a habit? Tie a black string in your hand, for example and whenever a negative thought enters just pull it! Secondly, you can introduce meditation in your daily routine as it helps you to observe your thought and separate yourself from it. Thought itself is neutral; its positive or negative nature makes or breaks our life. Surround yourself with lots of positives- books, people, affirmations, meditation, and sacred mantras if you wish and practice this for 90 days at least. Let it become part of your blood and bone, period.
*Choose Inspiration Over Motivation:

What’s the difference; they are synonym, don’t they? In a sense yes, but in a broader aspect, can differ. While what motivates you is like ice cream- an ephemeral emotion, it melts quickly; inspiration is like buying a pair of Bata shoes- it lasts long! Many a time you might have experienced some feel good factor after watching a motivational video, reading a book or listening to a speaker in a motivational speaker. The euphoria when you are in a crowd overpowers you and everything looks green and beautiful; but the moment the crowd disperses and you are walking on that lonely street, sitting silently staring the roof of your confinement, the pessimist ghost starts hovering. You continue living the routine you had previous day or the day before yesterday. You give up, literally.
On the other hand if you have a clear vision, a purpose, a sense of achievement that will not only impact you but millions of people; you strive for it even if it hurts. This purpose is so grand that to discipline your body mind becomes your priority without any motivational videos or provoking from some life coach. So, inspiration is that state of mind that propels you to continue your effort even if you feel demotivated; even if you have a bad day; and odds of life have upper hand. Sardar Patel had a vision of a unified India. It looked difficult to pull together various states that spoke different dialects, practiced varied ideologies and were adamant to remain standalone entity. But the iron man had a purpose; an idea that was difficult to conceive forget about materializing it but we know what his “will force” did. He was inspired for a greater purpose, come what may.
Nelson Mandela’s indomitable spirit to provide equal rights for the natives of South Africa and to end apartheid inspired him to fight for 28 years. There was no YouTube at that time I guess for motivational videos! To inspire you all, here is a contemporary example.
Shaumya Sharma, a 23 year old law graduate of National Law University, New Delhi is now an IAS officer.She started preparing in Feb-2017, but the road to success introduced many hurdles that demanded a very strong will to pass them; and Shaumya displayed a fighting spirit. It all went well till PT but in Mains viral fever gripped her and she was in constant pain that affected her neck area and it extended till the wrist. She couldn’t pick up the pen. Physiotherapy, Electric shock and painkillers, such dreaded options were suggested for relief but nothing worked.
Somehow she would drag herself to the examination hall to write her papers. With the passage of time she endured the worse. While writing her Mains, during lunch she was supported on saline drip in her van and body temperature won’t fall below 102-03 degree. She lost her hearing ability partially too during childhood. Despite early setbacks and the horror she faced during exams she excelled wonderfully and defeated the negatives. How? She explained that idea of serving people and proving my naysayers wrong inspired her to persist without complain. Shaumya had a purpose, a higher calling. What’s yours?
*Develop Daily Discipline:

It turns out to be progressively harder to be trained in a general public that prizes moment satisfaction. We are more worried about feeling great constantly, so we look for prompt joys, regardless of whether it's another auto, an extraordinary outing or another accomplice. Our long haul objectives are not all that essential any longer. We get settled and sit tight for a unique occasion to give our lives significance, bliss and achievement. But if your goal demands long term play you can’t refrain from the idea of building a daily discipline. Discipline is the distinction between being responsible for your future and giving your condition a chance to direct your fate. Make a standard that turns out to be second nature, programmed, typical. Competitors in various athletics, for instance, realize what hours they should prepare, when to break for noon and dinnertime, and when to rest. By following a similar schedule they prepare themselves to win. Arranging your own schedule and sticking to it will help you for daily progress as well.
* Sense The “Flow” And Exploit It To The Maximum:

Before telling about the “flow” formally let me ask you something. Did you find that soda in your hand getting back to the room temperature while watching your favorite movie or a sitcom? How often it has happened that coiled up in a single posture you finished a novel that you find difficult to put off? Or even before realizing the first thing in the morning you did was get up and start revising your notes not pout of pressure but you thought that’s what  you need to do. In the above mentioned scenario the subject is in the “flow” state of mind.
Known to the Indian sages and monks in ancient time and popularized by the modern psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi- can you pronounce this name, I can’t!, “flow” is the mental state where a person is completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing a musical instrument. Your whole being is involved, and you are using your skills to the utmost. How to develop this state of mind? Over learning a skill or concept can help people experience flow. Another critical concept is the idea of slightly extending oneself beyond one’s current ability level. This slight stretching of one’s current skills can help individual experience flow. Meditation attunes you to the “Flow” state naturally.

* Take Only A Slice Of Your BIG Goal:

While it's extraordinary to have a goal-oriented objective to go for, on the off chance that you invest excessively energy mulling over the immense separation between where you stand now and where you need to get to, there's a truly decent hazard that you'll never begin on it. In all actuality, aspiring objectives can be as scary and debilitating as they can be moving and persuading. The key to influencing them to wake up is to separate your huge objective into bunches of littler advances that will bit by bit get you to where you need to be – and spotlight on them. This is called 'lumping' or breaking your goals into smaller piece. Each time you recognize a littler objective, check whether that can be separated into smaller than expected goals. By consistently working over from all that you have to influence your objective to happen, you can create tasks and a time frame.
* Find your clock:

There comes a point when however hard you try, by looking at other’s success and euphoria generated around it will force you to question why you couldn’t make it. Probably their strategies were better or luck smiled. This shouldn’t frustrate you. We all are in different time zone so far as meeting success is concerned. The world is full of examples where we see a genius at the age of 10 while many struggle till half of their making a decent bend in their life; only to surprise naysayers in their latter year. Some succeeds early, some latter but you get closer to your set goals if you are honestly pursuing it. Whatever may be the end results of your effort remember: If you win, celebrate; If you couldn’t hit the bull’s-eye you know you have trained so hard that you can be a guru to others. Either way you win.